… because you’re not supposed to have it all together.

Helloooooo mamas and mamas to be! We are the newlymoms – and we created the newlymoms because … well, we’re new moms. And we believe that EVERY mama needs permission to not have it all (or even some of it) together. It’s no coincidence we are launching our blog on Mother’s Day! What better way to celebrate being a mom than to band together with other moms and give each other freedom to figure it out as we go along?

As mamas, we have a tendency to take ourselves too seriously. We put so much pressure on ourselves to get it right – and not just right eventually, but right the first time. And while on paper it sounds pretty ridiculous, but we continue to do it. So, here’s what we say – it’s time to get over ourselves. Yes, we have one of the most important jobs a woman could have, BUT we’re still just figuring this thing out as we go along.

We call it “winging it”- yup, that’s what we do … fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants-motherhood. And LET’S BE REAL (which is one of the qualities us newlymoms pride ourselves upon) — no one gets it until they – get – it. And you don’t get it simply because you’ve read an exorbitant amount of perfectly constructed, visually appealing blog posts from moms who’ve “been there, done that.” Don’t be schooled or fooled – NO mom’s experience is going to be quite like (or even, in most cases, remotely similar to) yours and thus, no blog post on “The 10 Surefire Ways to Get Your 2-day-old on a Sleep Schedule” or “The Gazillion Items Your Baby Registry Can’t Live Without” is going to solve all your problems and turn you into supermom before you even leave the hospital.

At the end of the day (and the beginning for that matter), we have absolutely no idea what we’re doing – so to play it like we do is not in the least bit helpful. We need to be okay with not being prepared and figuring out all the ways to do it wrong before we actually discover how to do it half-right.

So if you’re looking for all the answers – look elsewhere – ‘cause they ain’t here. And I hate to break it to you, but you’re not going to find them anywhere. Our answers will look different from yours and we strongly believe that the best way to succeed in motherhood is to combine forces and forge ahead. The old adage really is true— it DOES take a village to raise a child! We offer our experiences (which, by the way, are already at opposite ends of the spectrum) and don’t sell it as expertise. We’ll share strategies that have worked for us and they may or may not be your solution— but hopefully they will eventually lead you to one! We seek connection and community – A TRIBE — not recognition or renown. We want you to know that we’re right there with you and that even the most experienced mom-of-the-year doesn’t have it all together. So, stay tuned & keep in touch. We’d be honored to have you <3.